December 15, 2009

Ngeyelisme malam Selasa

Saya punya interes besar ke humanisme dan sejarah. Makanya saya suka pergi ke bekas kamp konsentrasi NAZI di Jerman sini, atau lokasi bersejarah lainnya, spt Waterloo, dsb. Ada teman saya disini, kandidat PHD ekonomi sekaligus pengamat politik kurang kerjaan yang agak freak karena suka juga sama yang aneh2 begini (:p) berkomentar, "Eksposur loe ke sejarah bener-bener mengagumkan. Keren, sungguh. Elo 1 dari 1000 orang muda yang begitu Wie" ---> tuh kan, terbukti dia itu freak, karena penggunaan kata2nya tidak lazim ('eksposur' misalnya) hehe..

Komentar dia membuat saya berpikir, betapa sayangnya bahwa generasi muda Indonesia tidak banyak terekspos (!) ke sejarah.. Tidak cuma sejarah, minat membaca dan apresiasi seni misalnya minat mengunjungi museum juga tampaknya kurang. Tiap kali saya mengunjungi museum atau kamp konsentrasi, pengunjung asia yang biasa saya temui adalah mereka yang berkewarganegaraan Jepang atau Taiwan.

Apakah ini ada hubungannya dengan kondisi ekonomi yang lebih baik dan memacu mereka untuk lebih menghargai seni dan sejarah? toh tidak ada lagi kekuatiran "besok makan apa?", jadi mereka bisa berkonsentrasi ke hal-hal yang lebih tidak esensial? Intinya sih kurang kerjaan.. Hm, mungkin karena ini juga tingkat depresi di negara2 maju lebih tinggi daripada negara berkembang?

Sungguh disayangkan bahwa minat membaca dan apresiasi terhadap seni dan sejarah ini tidak pernah disosialisasikan di sekolah Indonesia. Kunjungan ke museum yang diorganisir sekolah? tiga tahun sekali saja sudah bagus.. Waktu saya di museum Louvre, saya melihat banyak grup anak-anak sekolah Perancis dengan bimbingan guru seni yang menjelaskan satu persatu latar belakang karya seni disana. Bahkan saya melihat grup anak-anak sekolah dari Jepang.. Di kamp konsentrasi Dachau, saya juga melihat banyak rombongan anak sekolah Jerman yang dipimpin oleh seorang pemandu yang menjelaskan dengan detail sejarah bangkitnya NSDAP (Nazi) sampai pembantaian massal yang terjadi disana. Pesan yang paling penting untuk anak-anak ini adalah ini sejarah kelam bangsa kita dan ini tidak boleh terjadi lagi. Indah bukan?

Saya beruntung lahir di keluarga yang cukup mapan dan punya minat membaca tinggi. Saat saya masih kecil dan belum bisa membaca, mama sering mendongeng untuk saya. Setelah saya bisa membaca, supply buku saya tidak pernah habis. Dari majalah Bobo, petualangan Enid Blyton, ensiklopedia anak-anak 'Mengapa begini mengapa begitu', dongeng Andersen, dsb. Orang tua saya tidak pernah bilang tidak bila saya minta dibelikan buku baru (sayang mereka sering bilang tidak kalau saya minta uang jajan tambahan atau mainan baru). Setelah agak besar, saya mulai baca buku koleksi mama, misalnya karangan Alexandre Dumas, the Perfumenya Dreyfuss, dsb. Buku koleksi papa? tidak pernah saya sentuh waktu itu..The Art of Happiness Dalai Lama, Strategi Perang siapa lah itu (Sun Tzu?), biografi2, dsb. Ah, membosankan dan tidak imajinatif. Mama juga sering membawa saya nonton film2 seperti Children of Heaven, Life is Beautiful, ... Mungkin dari situ saya berkenalan dengan tema humanisme dalam sejarah..

Saya jadi ingat, teman saya yang freak ini bilang alasan mengapa dia menyukai tema-tema aneh ini mungkin karena dia terlibat di organisasi mahasiswa waktu dia muda (!), dan mungkin juga ada hubungannya dengan fakta bahwa dia seorang Kristen di lingkungan mayoritas muslim. Sebagai kaum minoritas dia lebih sensitif.. Saya jawab,"Lah, apalagi gue.. kristen, cina lagi." :p Minoritas ganda. Mungkin pendapat dia benar, sebagai minoritas kita lebih struggle (apa sih kata Indonesianya?) dengan pertanyaan2 tentang eksistensi kita sebagai manusia, dan mungkin bisa lebih relate (?) dengan tema humanisme.

Ah, tapi saya juga punya banyak teman yang cina dan kristen, tapi mereka tenang-tenang saja koq, tidak punya minat juga ke yang aneh2 begini. Tampaknya ini berhubungan dengan karakter manusia, ada yang restless (tolong diterjemahkan?) dan banyak bertanya, ada juga yang cuek. Kadang saya iri terhadap orang-orang yang bisa cuek saja, mereka mungkin tidak banyak pikiran dan santai. Saya? mungkin botak atau mulai punya kerutan pada usia awal 30 --> yes!untung ada botox!

Dan teman saya ini bilang, fakta bahwa saya berjenis kelamin perempuan juga membingungkan karena lebih umum bahwa laki-laki yang lebih punya interes ke hal-hal seperti itu. Kalaupun perempuan, biasanya mereka spesialis, dalam arti profesi mereka memungkinkan mereka untuk bergelut dalam bidang ini, penulis misalnya. Uh, seksis dia! hehe. Tapi dia benar, dengan berat hati saya akui itu.. Tidak banyak teman perempuan saya yang punya interes yang sama. Karena kapasitas otak kita lebih kecil? atau karena lebih banyak hal esensial lain yang menarik perhatian kita, make up dan mode misalnya? Hm, sekarang saya sudah tahu resolusi tahun baru saya : mau jadi schikimicki!! yaay!

Schickimicki: party girl yang menitikberatkan penampilan. --> eeh? sounds like me juga koq.. :p Berarti saya sudah dekat ke pencapaian resolusi ini.

*Dunia modern didasarkan dari sejarah. Kalau kita tidak mengetahuinya, maka kita tidak mengetahui fakta mendasar tentang siapa diri kita. Mengapa kita melakukan apa yang kita lakukan, darimana kita berasal.. Kalau kita tidak tahu sejarah, maka kita tidak tahu apa-apa. Kita cuma sehelai daun yang tidak tahu bahwa diri kita merupakan bagian dari sebatang pohon. Dan alangkah indahnya jika kita semua bisa belajar dari sejarah, mungkin tidak ada perang, tidak ada kejahatan humanisme, singkatnya utopia.

iih.. susah loh ternyata nulis pake bahasa indonesia baku.. cape deeh.. mesti balik ke SMP lagi nih kayaknya..

bad days

1. Ga bisa masuk rumah 2 hari!
Gue ternyata ga multitasking. Hari Sabtu janjian sama Sonny. Lagi pake sepatu, Sonny telpon, sambil telponan, ambil tas, pake sepatu, keluar, "Brak!" tutup pintu.. Terus bengong deh gue... Soalnya gue ga bawa kunci! Dan itu pintu nyebelin kalo udah ditutup ga bisa dibuka lagi tanpa kunci.. huhuhu...

Akhirnya tetep pegi party bareng Sonny, toh pegi ga pegi juga sama aja ga bisa masuk.. Terus telpon Christian, minta tolong cariin Schlüsseldienst (tukang kunci) sama telponin tanya bakal bayar berapa. Mesti bayar 98€ bo! mo pingsan rasanya..

Christian bilang mungkin omnya bisa bukain pintu, soalnya dia udah beberapa kali kejadian juga. Maling kali ya omnya Christian? hehe..Yah, jadi Sabtu malem nginep tempat Yvonne, sampe minggu sore. Omnya Christian dateng minggu sore, eh tetep ga sukses juga jadi maling dadakannya.. Ya udah nasib...

Mulai sekarang gue titip kunci ke temen2 ah.. kapok!

2. Gue digosipin! asik..berasa seleb deh..
Ada temennya mantan (inisialnya: PH)yg nulis2 tentang gue di Note di Facebook yang bisa dibaca semua orang --> ya iyalah, gue aja bisa baca.. dan PH harusnya ga mau gue baca.. scr dia lg gosipin gue.. hehe

Dia nulis bahwa gue itu eine unglaublich eifersüchtige Freundin, intinya gue tuh cw yg unbelievably cembokuran deh.. yang bahkan cembokur sama alle gute Freundinnen (!SEMUA! temen cw yg deket sama mantan). Ih, lebay deh si mbak.. pake kata unglaublich segala..

Aduh.. itu si reporter koq kalo mau ngegosip ga pake klarifikasi ato riset dulu gitu yah? Soalnya beneran deh, dari hati nurani yang paling dalam dan jujur, gue ga pernah tuh ngerasa cembokur sama temen2 cw mantan.. Bingung, atas dasar apa dia nulis gitu tentang gue? dan ga kira2 lagi nulisnya pake publikasi di Facebook. aduh..malunya.. ngerusak pasaran gue aje... xD

Dan ga cuma itu.. PH juga nulis rekaman percakapan pribadi antara gue dan mantan. Si mantan sendiri sih yang cerita sama PH (Susah emang jadian sama orang ember). Saking personalnya gue pas baca ini note sampe merinding sendiri.. bacanya juga sambil rada diskip..malu bo.. Terus dia nulisnya ga pake nama samaran lagi.. halah, berita kriminal aja nama pelakunya biasanya dipakein inisial..

Sekarang gue ngerti rasanya jadi seleb dadakan (*tengil.com) dan berita cetak yg dipublikasikan ga dikonfirmasi dulu. Pengen marah deh.. ini judulnya BREACH OF CONFIDENTIALITY! halah.. kayak gue ngerti aje artinya..

Tapi bingung deh gue, gosipin gue koq ga lisan aja sih? penting gitu pake acara ditulis di notes di Facebook?? Gue pengen deh copy paste itu note tapi ntar dituntut deliberate copyright infringement lagi...

*tuh..baek kan gue..namanya aja gue pakein inisial... hihi.. *baek ato chicken takut orangnya baca? :p

Hm, saking ribetnya everything in one day, sampe lupa gue ini minggu advent ketiga

December 11, 2009

I love papa..

*got this from some indo. forum. Very touching.. thought I'll try to translate and share..
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Normally a young woman who is working or studying abroad, away from her parents, will miss her mother.

But what about father?

Perhaps because it's mom who calls you regularly to ask what you're doing, but do you know that it's dad who reminds her to call you?

When you were little, mom was the one who told you stories and fairytales, but do you know that after coming home from work, with tired face, it was dad who asked her what you were doing the whole day..

When you were a little girl, daddy taught you how to ride a bike.. He would take off the extra side wheels once he thought you can.

Then mom would say,"Not yet dad.. Don't." She didn't want her little girl to fall and get hurt.

But do you realize? Father would let you pedal while watching you and taking care of you from behind, because he knew his little girl can do it.

When you cried and whined for a new toy or doll, mom would look at you with pity. But dad would sternly say,"Later, not now."

Do you know, dad said so because he doesn't want his girl to grow up being spoilt?

When you caught a cold, daddy would be worried and would shout,"I've told you no to drink cold water!"

Unlike mom who watched and advised gently, know that dad was really worried about you too.

When you're a teenager, you started demanding him to let you out at night, and he would firmly said no.

Do you know, he did that because you're very precious.. Afterwards you would get angry at him and slammed your room's door on him.. Mom would come knocking on your door and try to calm you down.

But do you know, that daddy closed his eyes and held his emotion, because he wanted to grant your wishes, but he had to take care of you..

When a boy called you or even came around, daddy would look super cool :)

When daddy even eavesdropped your conversation with the boy, did you realize that deep inside he felt jealous?

After you gained his trust and were allowed to go out at night, you would break his curfew.

So he would sit in the living room, worriedly waiting for you to come home.. And when he saw his little girl came home late at night, he would scold you.. Do you realize that's because he'd foreseen what he dreaded most, that his little girl would soon slip away from him..

After highschool, dad would force you to become a doctor or an engineer. Know that he did that because he's thinking about your future..But still he kept smiling and supporting you even if you chose other ways..

When you grew up and had to go away for your study, he took you to the airport and rigidly hugged you.. He smiled, gave you 'this and that' advice and told you to be careful..Deep inside, he wanted to cry like your mom and hold you tight..

But he only wiped away his tears from his eyes, patted your shoulder and said,"take care of yourself, dear."

Dad did it all for you to be strong, to be an adult..

When you needed money for your study and living, the first person who frowned was dad..He would work hard to provide your needs. But when your demand was no longer a new doll, and he knew he couldn't give you what you wanted, he would say,"No. Can't." But deep inside, he really wanted to say,"Yes dear, daddy will buy you that.."

Do you know, at that moment dad felt like a failure because he couldn't make his little girl smile..

When you graduated, dad would be the first one standing up and giving you applause. He would proudly smile seeing his little girl's becoming an adult.

And then, a man came to ask daddy's permission to take you away from him..

Dad would carefully give his permission because he knew, this man's going to replace him.

And at last, when daddy saw you at the altar with the man he thought deserves to take his place, he would smile happily..

But do you know, on this day he went behind the wall and cried?

Daddy cried because he's very happy and he would pray silently,"God, my job is done, my beloved little girl had become a beautiful grown woman. Please give her happiness."

Afterwards, daddy can only wait for your occasional visits with your children..with his greying hair and weakened arms which can't protect you from danger anymore..

Daddy has done his job..

Daddy is a figure who always has to look strong, even if he wanted to cry and couldn't hold his tears. He always has to be stern, even if he wanted to pamper you.

And he is the first person who always believes from the very beginning: "YOU CAN"
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*My papa didn't teach me how to ride a bike when I was little, but he taught me the most important thing in my life: how to be a realist and still look at the world with a smile and positive attitude. And he does always believe I can :)

Aku sayang papa..



Biasanya, bagi seorang anak perempuan yang sudah dewasa, yang sedang bekerja diperantauan, yang ikut suaminya merantau di luar kota atau luar negeri, yang sedang bersekolah atau kuliah jauh dari kedua orang tuanya.....

Akan sering merasa kangen sekali dengan Mamanya.

Lalu bagaimana dengan Papa?

Mungkin karena Mama lebih sering menelepon untuk menanyakan keadaanmu setiap hari,

tapi tahukah kamu, jika ternyata Papa-lah yang mengingatkan Mama untuk menelponmu?

Mungkin dulu sewaktu kamu kecil, Mama-lah yang lebih sering mengajakmu bercerita atau berdongeng,

tapi tahukah kamu, bahwa sepulang Papa bekerja dan dengan wajah lelah Papa selalu menanyakan pada Mama tentang kabarmu dan apa yang kau lakukan seharian?

Pada saat dirimu masih seorang anak perempuan kecil......

Papa biasanya mengajari putri kecilnya naik sepeda.

Dan setelah Papa mengganggapmu bisa, Papa akan melepaskan roda bantu di sepedamu...

Kemudian Mama bilang : "Jangan dulu Papa, jangan dilepas dulu roda bantunya" ,

Mama takut putri manisnya terjatuh lalu terluka....

Tapi sadarkah kamu?

Bahwa Papa dengan yakin akan membiarkanmu, menatapmu, dan menjagamu mengayuh sepeda dengan seksama karena dia tahu putri kecilnya PASTI BISA.

Pada saat kamu menangis merengek meminta boneka atau mainan yang baru, Mama menatapmu iba.

Tetapi Papa akan mengatakan dengan tegas : "Boleh, kita beli nanti, tapi tidak sekarang"

Tahukah kamu, Papa melakukan itu karena Papa tidak ingin kamu menjadi anak yang manja dengan semua tuntutan yang selalu dapat dipenuhi?

Saat kamu sakit pilek, Papa yang terlalu khawatir sampai kadang sedikit membentak dengan berkata :

"Sudah di bilang! kamu jangan minum air dingin!".

Berbeda dengan Mama yang memperhatikan dan menasihatimu dengan lembut.

Ketahuilah, saat itu Papa benar-benar mengkhawatirkan keadaanmu.

Ketika kamu sudah beranjak remaja....

Kamu mulai menuntut pada Papa untuk dapat izin keluar malam, dan Papa bersikap tegas dan mengatakan: "Tidak boleh!".

Tahukah kamu, bahwa Papa melakukan itu untuk menjagamu?

Karena bagi Papa, kamu adalah sesuatu yang sangat - sangat luar biasa berharga..

Setelah itu kamu marah pada Papa, dan masuk ke kamar sambil membanting pintu...

Dan yang datang mengetok pintu dan membujukmu agar tidak marah adalah Mama....

Tahukah kamu, bahwa saat itu Papa memejamkan matanya dan menahan gejolak dalam batinnya,

Bahwa Papa sangat ingin mengikuti keinginanmu, Tapi lagi-lagi dia HARUS menjagamu?

Ketika saat seorang cowok mulai sering menelponmu, atau bahkan datang ke rumah untuk menemuimu, Papa akan memasang wajah paling cool sedunia.... :')

Papa sesekali menguping atau mengintip saat kamu sedang ngobrol berdua di ruang tamu..

Sadarkah kamu, kalau hati Papa merasa cemburu?

Saat kamu mulai lebih dipercaya, dan Papa melonggarkan sedikit peraturan untuk keluar rumah untukmu, kamu akan memaksa untuk melanggar jam malamnya..

Maka yang dilakukan Papa adalah duduk di ruang tamu, dan menunggumu pulang dengan hati yang sangat khawatir...

Dan setelah perasaan khawatir itu berlarut - larut...

Ketika melihat putri kecilnya pulang larut malam hati Papa akan mengeras dan Papa memarahimu.. .

Sadarkah kamu, bahwa ini karena hal yang di sangat ditakuti Papa akan segera datang?

"Bahwa putri kecilnya akan segera pergi meninggalkan Papa"

Setelah lulus SMA, Papa akan sedikit memaksamu untuk menjadi seorang Dokter atau Insinyur.

Ketahuilah, bahwa seluruh paksaan yang dilakukan Papa itu semata - mata hanya karena memikirkan masa depanmu nanti...

Tapi toh Papa tetap tersenyum dan mendukungmu saat pilihanmu tidak sesuai dengan keinginan Papa

Ketika kamu menjadi gadis dewasa....

Dan kamu harus pergi kuliah dikota lain...

Papa harus melepasmu di bandara.

Tahukah kamu bahwa badan Papa terasa kaku untuk memelukmu?

Papa hanya tersenyum sambil memberi nasehat ini - itu, dan menyuruhmu untuk berhati-hati. ..

Padahal Papa ingin sekali menangis seperti Mama dan memelukmu erat-erat.

Yang Papa lakukan hanya menghapus sedikit air mata di sudut matanya, dan menepuk pundakmu berkata "Jaga dirimu baik-baik ya sayang".

Papa melakukan itu semua agar kamu KUAT...kuat untuk pergi dan menjadi dewasa.

Disaat kamu butuh uang untuk membiayai uang semester dan kehidupanmu, orang pertama yang mengerutkan kening adalah Papa.

Papa pasti berusaha keras mencari jalan agar anaknya bisa merasa sama dengan teman-temannya yang lain.

Ketika permintaanmu bukan lagi sekedar meminta boneka baru, dan Papa tahu ia tidak bisa memberikan yang kamu inginkan...

Kata-kata yang keluar dari mulut Papa adalah : "Tidak.... Tidak bisa!"

Padahal dalam batin Papa, Ia sangat ingin mengatakan "Iya sayang, nanti Papa belikan untukmu".

Tahukah kamu bahwa pada saat itu Papa merasa gagal membuat anaknya tersenyum?

Saatnya kamu diwisuda sebagai seorang sarjana.

Papa adalah orang pertama yang berdiri dan memberi tepuk tangan untukmu.

Papa akan tersenyum dengan bangga dan puas melihat "putri kecilnya yang tidak manja berhasil tumbuh dewasa, dan telah menjadi seseorang"

Sampai saat seorang teman Lelakimu datang ke rumah dan meminta izin pada Papa untuk mengambilmu darinya.

Papa akan sangat berhati-hati memberikan izin..

Karena Papa tahu.....

Bahwa lelaki itulah yang akan menggantikan posisinya nanti.

Dan akhirnya....

Saat Papa melihatmu duduk di Panggung Pelaminan bersama seseorang Lelaki yang di anggapnya pantas menggantikannya, Papa pun tersenyum bahagia....

Apakah kamu mengetahui, di hari yang bahagia itu Papa pergi kebelakang panggung sebentar, dan menangis?

Papa menangis karena papa sangat berbahagia, kemudian Papa berdoa....

Dalam lirih doanya kepada Tuhan, Papa berkata: "Ya Allah tugasku telah selesai dengan baik....

Putri kecilku yang lucu dan kucintai telah menjadi wanita yang cantik....

Bahagiakanlah ia bersama suaminya..."

Setelah itu Papa hanya bisa menunggu kedatanganmu bersama cucu-cucunya yang sesekali datang untuk menjenguk...

Dengan rambut yang telah dan semakin memutih....

Dan badan serta lengan yang tak lagi kuat untuk menjagamu dari bahaya....

Papa telah menyelesaikan tugasnya....

Papa, Ayah, Bapak, atau Abah kita...

Adalah sosok yang harus selalu terlihat kuat...

Bahkan ketika dia tidak kuat untuk tidak menangis...

Dia harus terlihat tegas bahkan saat dia ingin memanjakanmu. .

Dan dia adalah yang orang pertama yang selalu yakin bahwa "KAMU BISA" dalam segala hal...

December 9, 2009

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December 6, 2009

Angel's carol








Angels' Carol - John Rutter

Have you heard the sounds of the angel voices ringing out so sweetly,
ringing out so clear?
Have you seen the star shining out so brightly as a sign from God
that Christ the Lord is here?
Have you heard the news that they bring from heaven to the humble shepherds
who have waited long?
Gloria in excelsis Deo! Gloria in excelsis Deo!
Hear the angels sing their joyful song.

He is come in peace in the winter's stillness,
like a snowfall in the gentle night.
He is come in joy. He is come in joy, like the sun at morning,
filling all the world with radiance and with light.
He is come in love as the child of Mary.
In a simple stable we have seen his birth.
Gloria in excelsis Deo! Gloria in excelsis Deo!
Hear the angels singing 'Peace on earth'.

He will bring new light.
He will bring new light to a world in darkness,
like a bright star shining in the skies above.
He will bring new hope. He will bring new hope to the waiting nations.
When he comes to reign in purity and love. Let the earth rejoice.
Let the earth rejoice at the Saviour's coming.
Let the heavens answer with the joyful morn:
Gloria in excelsis Deo! Gloria in excelsis Deo!
Hear the angels singing, 'Christ is born'|

*I loooove christmas carol, somehow reminds me of childhood.. This one is one of my faves..

December 2, 2009

For them I'll trade my soul


Ein Abschiedslied

Nehmt Abschied, Brüder, ungewiss
ist alle Wiederkehr,
die Zukunft liegt in Finsternis
und macht das Herz uns schwer.
Der Himmel wölbt sich übers Land,
Ade, auf Wiederseh'n!
Wir ruhen all in Gottes Hand,
Lebt wohl, auf Wiederseh'n.
Die Sonne sinkt, es steigt die Nacht,
vergangen ist der Tag.
Die Welt schläft ein, und leis' erwacht
der Nachtigallen Schlag.
So ist in jedem Anbeginn
das Ende nicht mehr weit.
Wir kommen her und gehen hin
und mit uns geht die Zeit.
Nehmt Abschied, Brüder, schließt den Kreis,
das Leben ist ein Spiel.
Nur wer es recht zu spielen weiß,
gelangt ans große Ziel.
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Wenn du dich matt und ermüdet fühlst,

wenn die bestehende Gewissheit keine Geborgenheit mehr gibt,
wenn dich die Luft der Angewohnheit erstickt,
wenn du dich nach einer Befreiung von unendlich schweren Last sehnst,
wenn du keine weitere Tränen vergießen willst,
heisst das Aufgeben? Nein Schatz,
das ist die Courage um von einer vertrauten Annehmlichkeit herauszukommen
und die zukommende Ungewissheit mit einem Lächeln begrüßen zu können
Denn das Leben ist nur ein Spiel, mein Schatz,
nur ein Spiel.

November 29, 2009

November 26, 2009

The ex files

I just chatted with a dear friend who recently has a new bf. She told me she vetoed her bf to stop keeping in touch with his ex and to remove her from his facebook friend's list, but the bf refused to do so. He should've seen it coming, the fire broke out. She got jealous and irritated from time to time, to the extreme measure that she fears her bf is thinking about his ex while making love to her. After a while, the bf gave in and removed her from his contact list. But it was kinda late since she thinks he should've done this earlier. Would all of these dramas not happen if he agreed to do what she wanted from the very beginning?

I recall watching an episode of Sex and the City where Carrie was haunted by the image of her bf's ex-wife and decided to personally check on the ex by pretending she had some book proposal and even setting up a meeting with the ex. FYI, the ex works in publishing. Well, curiosity kills the cat.. The ex is smart and stunning, Carrie felt threatened although she herself supposed to be smart and stunning as well. Hm, in my personal opinion, I don't think that Sarah Jessica Parker is pretty, so no wonder she felt threatened :p Anyway, watching this makes you wonder, why this sudden obsession?

Another episode of Desperate Housewives : Gaby was furious when she found out that her husband was going to work together with his ex gf. Please don't throw the first stone.. I admit I love those soap operas, tee hee.. See? at least I'm willing to admit it, I know I'm shallow :D

During my summer vacation, I met a very pretty and fun girl. She has this cool job which pays well and allows her to travel around the world. We had a drink together and she shared her story. Her fiance has like 17 ex gfs. I repeat, seventeen. She was actually quite bothered about this fact but she tried to get over it. What still bothers her sometimes is the fact that her fiance's still friends with his last gf, whom he cared about a lot. In fact, they have a really close friendship where they regularly call each other to update news etc. She had met this ex and known that the ex has no hidden agenda and is a really nice girl. But still, she cried when she told me this. She tried very hard to accept it and tried to be an understanding gf who doesn't have any problem with her own insecurity and this platonic friendship but it's immensely difficult for her..

I think if this 'friendship' really bothers her, then she should tell her fiance to stop contacting his ex, instead of crying alone in the middle of the night. She said she doesn't want to be so selfish to break a friendship bond. I admire her for her effort of taming the green-eyed monster, because I'm a very selfish person. I'm also someone who doesn't believe in platonic relationship between people who've been together before.

Back then when I got together with my bf, I sweetly (but poisonously) asked my bf to stop contacting his exes, he said ok. Afterwards I caught him chatting with his ex and lied to me about it. When I asked he told me,"She's just a friend I used to travel with bla bla.." He forgot that I have an elephant memory, meaning if he told me something, I can remember the details very well. I hate this sometimes. As you know, some things are better forgotten, but 'thanks' to my good memory those still linger on.. Long story short, we got into a fight and I VETOed him to break off contact with his exes. It's selfish I know, but so what? I don't want to torture myself pretending to be nice and understanding, I'm just being honest to myself and I want us to be happy. And the relationship can't go smoothly if I'm not happy. Call me a self-centered bitch, and see if I care ;)

Anyway, she is not happy with this and until now she keeps sending him messages saying how sad she is that he doesn't talk to her anymore, etc etc. Mind you, she even told his other friends to tell him how disappointed she is that they can't be friends anymore. How embarassing is that.. I can understand this if they used to be best of friends or something, but the truth is they weren't that close either.. And the funny thing is she herself vetoed her own bf to break contact with exes and didn't even allow her own bf to go to his ex gf's wedding! Hey, even I wouldn't sink that low.. And here she is, pestering her own ex to talk to her. Honestly, I was quite pissed off and would like to tell her to f*ck off and get a life. But since I have class (:p) I'll just brush it off and laugh at how pathetic it is.

Back to jealousy, fear, insecurity, even obsession.. Why?
I found this in some forum,
"Because they are a reminder that this relationship could end too, that everything she/he is saying to you, doing with you, she/he did with him or her too once, and that you are not alone in knowing the inner territories of your other half, as they have been well travelled."

I think I can relate. But sooner or later we'll all arrive at one point where we have to try to think positively that we all have fear of the unknown, but the fear shouldn't be jeopardizing the known.

November 23, 2009

nicely put..

Why did Cinderella run away when the clock turned 12?
To remind us that everything has its limitations, even dreams

Why did Ariel decide to exchange her fins with feet?
To show us that anyone will try to lose anything just to be happy


November 22, 2009

Cinta berdarah itu membunuhmu


atas nama cinta kamu dibungkam
atas nama cinta kamu dibelenggu
atas nama cinta kamu menangis
atas nama cinta kamu diinjak
atas nama cinta sayapmu patah
atas nama cinta kamu dicekik
atas nama cinta kamu diikat
atas nama cinta kamu pun terbunuh

(ah sampah, atas nama ego kamu mati)


In the name of love you are silenced
In the name of love you are shackled
In the name of love you cried
In the name of love you are crushed
In the name of love your wings are broken
In the name of love you are strangled
In the name of love you are tied
In the name of love and you are killed

(ah trash, in the name of ego you are dead)

too much love will kill you
this love is bleeding

November 9, 2009

Cute little fluffy girlfriend from hell

Honestly, I never thought of myself as someone who makes other people's lives a living hell, but today I have to admit that I am in fact a girlfriend from hell, (complete with sharp fangs and whip), moody and short tempered (only towards boyfriend, curiously).

Today I was having my mood swing for the 1 millionth time. After being temporarily autistic through the afternoon, occassionally snapping at my bf, and ignoring him most of the time, it was 5 PM already and we were planning to make some vietnamese roll, so I left the house to go grocery shopping without saying anything to him. I was standing at the bus stop waiting for the bus to come, and there he was, running to catch me at the bus stop, holding an umbrella. Yep, it was snowing and raining. Then I got on the bus, still ignoring him. Got off the bus, still pretending he didn't exist. And he was behind me all the time, holding the umbrella for me. Yaay, I had my free personal umbrella boy basically!

Apropos umbrella boy, there're always these boys (ojek payung) in Indonesia when it's raining, renting out umbrellas to people. Imagine yourself standing in front of a department store, you have to walk for 10 mins to your car and it's raining heavily. Then one boy offered you an umbrella to rent for 10 cents, so you took the umbrella, started to walk to your car, he's following you, soaked to the bone. You reached your car, gave him the 10 ct, and he went away, looking for another 'customer'. It's sad but hey if they can earn some extra money, why not? since the government doesn't give a darn about giving them some proper living and education.


Anyway, back to me. So, there I was, snapping at and practically abusing my bf. But instead of snapping back at me, he kept quiet and kept sheltering me with his umbrella while trying to keep pace with me
(which is admittedly quite difficult since I was walking fast originally then slowed down out of sudden just to get on his nerves ---> this.. I failed miserably). He then cooked some soup at home, washed the dishes, still not saying anything.

Long story short, after the silent dinner (mea culpa, of course!), I went to the bathroom to pee and found out I'm having my monthly period, which is a totally logical explanation of why I was being so bitchy, hee hee (lame excuse!). Since the period was kinda out of schedule and unpredicted, my panties was blood-stained. So, I soaked it in some water, planning to wash it first thing tomorrow. And guess what, my fluffy hunny bunny bf washed it for me! I wasn't even aware of him washing it, till I saw the stain free panties. How cool is that!!? Even my mom wouldn't do that for me definitely!

It's either he's a masochist (self reminder: get him checked! :p) or he's head over heels in love with me, (Mind you, I know it's the latter..) but I never thought he'd do such thing for me after what I did to him.. Well, I guess the saying is true then: 'love is blind'. If I were him, I would've snapped back at me, or at least ignored me :) Hm, wait! or is this his tactic, playing the 'sweet-angelic-silently hurting-bf' card? If it's true, then he really knows how to play his card, since I'm feeling guilty right now.. ('the power of manipulation!' *cursing under breath).


Well, either way, I think I'm going to snuggle up to him, bat some not-so-long lashes and give him my cutest 'I'm sorry' look plus those huge doe eyes for extra effect (I'm SO going to buy those circle lenses!). And it doesn't hurt either that he thinks I'm über-cute, tee hee :D



November 4, 2009

hantu

Lari! Yang cepat!
terus kau perintah kakimu
membawa kamu menjauh
dari dia yang selalu mengejarmu
dia yang tidak pernah jauh
sosok hantu tanpa wajah

Kadang kau rasakan desah napasnya
di belakang tengkuk
dan kau pun menggigil takut
dingin
dan berlarilah kau makin cepat
dua kaki mencoba raih jarak
tapi ada berat yang mengikat

Mau kemana kamu?
kubuka mulut bertanya
kamu diam membisu
karna kamu tak tahu
tak kau lihat terang didepan
dan dibelakang ada dia

Lihat, kamu jatuh tersungkur
Bangun! katamu pada dua kaki
Tidak sanggup lagi, kata mereka
kamu pun berpasrah, lelah
rasakan kedatangan perlahan sang hantu
tangannya terulur sentuh bahumu
kamu siap membeku

Tunggu, tangan itu hangat
sehangat sapaan kawan lama
rasanya kau kenal dia, tidak pasti
sejenak kau pejam matamu
biarkan dia selimuti kau dengan kenangan
dan mengalirlah dua tetes air mata
saat beribu gelombang rasa kembali menerpa
rasa yang telah lama lupa

Disekanya tetes air dari sudut mata
lalu bisiknya lembut di telinga
Anak, aku bukan musuh
jangan kau lari dariku
denganku berdamailah
dan kau pun akan bebas

Kau buka matamu,
sadar dia berwajah dan bernama
ternyata kau kenal dia, amat pasti
Nama hantu itu masa lalu

November 2, 2009

TALE OF 2 COWS



SOCIALISM
You have 2 cows
You give 1 cow for your neighbor.

COMMUNISM
You have 2 cows
The state take over both cows and give you 2 cans of milk.

FASCISM
You have 2 cows
The state take over both cows and sell the milk to you.

NAZISM
You have 2 cows
The state take over both cows and shot you.

BUREAUCRATISM
You have 2 cows ,
The state take over both cows, shot one, get the milk from the other and throw it away.

TRADITIONAL CAPITALISM
You have 2 female cows
you sell one and buy one male cow, the number of your cattle grows, and the economy grows.

SURREALISM
You have 2 cows
The government asked you to take harmonica course.

AN AMERICAN CORPORATION
You have 2 cows .
You sell one, and force the other one to produce milk as much as 4 cows.
Then, you hire a consultant to analyze why the cow died.

THE ANDERSEN MODEL
You have 2 cows .
You minced them both.

A FRENCH CORPORATION
You have 2 cows
You go in the street, gather the mass, blockade the street, because you want 3 cows.

A JAPANESE CORPORATION
You have 2 cows .
You redesigned them so they can produce 20 times as much milk.
Then you create a cartoon profile of smart cow named "Cowkimon" and sell it to the world.

A GERMAN CORPORATION
You have 2 cows
You redesigned them so they can live for more than 100 years, eat only once a month, and they can milk each others.

AN ITALIAN CORPORATION
You have 2 cows, but you don’t know where they are.
So you decide to go out for lunch.

A RUSSIAN CORPORATION
You have 2 cows
You count them and dream what if you have 5 cows .
You count them again and dream what if you have 42 cows .
You count them again and realized that you only have 2 cows.
You stop counting and open a bottle of Vodka.

A SWISS CORPORATION
You have 5000 cows. None of them are yours.
Then you charge administrative fee to the owners for keeping there.

A CHINESE CORPORATION
You have 2 cows .
You have 300 pepole to milk those cows.
You state that there is no unemployment, and the production rate is high.
You arrest reporters who report the truth.

AN INDIAN CORPORATION
You have 2 cows
You worship them.

BRITISH CORPORATION
You have 2 cows
Both are mad cows.

IRAQ CORPORATION
Everyone thinks you have many cows
You tell them you don’t have them.
No one believes you, so they bomb and invade your country.
You still have no cows, at least now you are part of democracy.

NEW ZEALAND CORPORATION
You have 2 cows
The left cow seems quite attractive.

AUSTRALIAN CORPORATION
You have 2 cows .
The business seems good.
You close the office and find beer to celebrate it.

INDONESIAN CORPORATION
You have 2 stolen cows
Take a bank loan of 4 cows, then sell the 4 loan cows, and put the 2 stolen cows under your childrens name.
Tell the bank that you can not pay them, unless they finance you a milk factory.
Take the money and go to Singapore

MALAYSIAN CORPORATION
You have 2 cows
Both are stolen from Indonesia.

August 31, 2009

Burung abu abu kecil

Burung abu abu kecil itu masuk lewat jendela
Kuabaikan dia,
kubiarkan dia.
Aku pikir dia akan pergi.
Dia merintih,
aku kasihan.
Aku beri makan,
tapi tak peduli, dia mau tinggal atau pergi lagi.
Dia tinggal.

Waktu berlalu.
Aku mulai biasa ada dia,
aku mulai sayang dia.
Aku lihat bulunya abu abu.
Aku pikir dia lebih cantik berwarna merah.
Aku dandani dia.
Ah, sekarang dia agak merah.

Bulunya tipis,
Aku rajutkan baju hangat untuk dia,
takut dia dingin.
Dia katupkan paruhnya,
tanda tidak suka.

Ada duri di kakinya.
Aku coba keluarkan,
takut dia sakit.
Dia mematukku.

Karena sayang ku ingin ubah burung kecil abu abu
jadi burung merak yang cantik.
Aku pikir kalau cantik dia bahagia.
Karena peduli aku cabut duri di kakinya.
Aku pikir kalau sehat dia bahagia.

Tapi tidak.
Dia bahagia dengan bulu tipis abu abunya,
juga biasa dengan duri di kakinya.
Aneh,
Kenapa malah aku yang sakit?
Aku sadar,
Rasa peduli, sayang dan memiliki ini meracuniku.

Semakin aku genggam erat,
semakin kencang ia kepakkan sayapnya,
semakin ingin ia terbang.

Sudah saatnya aku lepas dia,
biar dia terbang tinggi.
Karena dia makluk langit,
bukan milikku,
bukan pula ciptaanku.

Dan aku pun tersenyum.
Si burung kecil,
ternyata lebih indah diatas sana,
terbang bebas dengan bulu abu abu tipis,
dan duri di kakinya.

February 20, 2009

Giving up

There's a point in your life when you get tired of fixing everything& trying to make everyone happy. When you finally decide to quit, it's NOT giving up.It's realizing you don't need certain people and the bullshit they bring in to your life'

February 9, 2009

Goodbye my lover

I chatted with a friend yesterday and it turned out that he just had his heart broken. So I gave him this song from James Blunt to help him cry his heart out, not that he needs it apparently, as he's sad enough already... xD
This song used to be my own broken-heart song. Accidentally heard it on my sister's ipod around two years ago. I was sitting on a bus back then, staring out the dirty window, hurting and thinking about the past relationship, then I just started to cry. I felt like I could totally relate to the lyrics. Kinda embarrassing, now that I think of it again. Well, it's been a while since I last heard this song, and even now, it still touches me.

This video clip is quite nice too.



Did I disappoint you or let you down?
Should I be feeling guilty or let the judges frown?
'Cause I saw the end before we'd begun,
Yes I saw you were blinded and I knew I had won.
So I took what's mine by eternal right.
Took your soul out into the night.
It may be over but it won't stop there,
I am here for you if you'd only care.
You touched my heart you touched my soul.
You changed my life and all my goals.
And love is blind and that I knew when,
My heart was blinded by you.
I've kissed your lips and held your hand.
Shared your dreams and shared your bed.
I know you well, I know your smell.
I've been addicted to you.

[x2]
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

I am a dreamer and when i wake,
You can't break my spirit - it's my dreams you take.
And as you move on, remember me,
Remember us and all we used to be
I've seen you cry, I've seen you smile.
I've watched you sleeping for a while.
I'd be the father of your child.
I'd spend a lifetime with you.
I know your fears and you know mine.
We've had our doubts but now we're fine,
And I love you, I swear that's true.
I cannot live without you.

[x2]
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

And I still hold your hand in mine.
In mine when I'm asleep.
And I will bare my soul in time,
When I'm kneeling at your feet.
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

I'm so hollow, baby, I'm so hollow.
I'm so, I'm so, I'm so hollow.
I'm so hollow, baby, I'm so hollow.
I'm so, I'm so, I'm so hollow.

February 5, 2009

bete bete bete

Wajar ga sih kalo gue marah sama seseorg yg notabene berstatus istimewa gr2 dia ga nelpon atau sms pas gue ultah? alesannya karna dia udah nyelametin per fesbuk. So !? apa dunk bedanya sama org2 laen...Temen2 yg gue ga ikrib2 bgt aje niat tuh nyelametin pas hari H, ada yg bela2in nelpon jem 12 teng malah.

Critanya sih dia nungguin gue online, tapi brubung gue ga ol dia tidur deh.. Udah tau gue ga nyaut di msn, bukannya usaha nelpon gue ke hp gitu... Segitu mahalnya ya emank nelpon ngucapin selamat semenit aje gitu? pinjem hp orang ato cari telpon umum gitu..

Gue ultah senen, ini hr kemis. N kalo tadi gue ga nyariin, sampe skrg gue kaga dikontek juga...

Halah, ga niat emank dasar.

bete bete bete.

February 1, 2009

Setarbak Kopi

some 'warung kopi' in Malaysia

Mirip lah ya? hehe..

January 27, 2009

Female Genital Mutilation


This practice is performed in Egypt, Sudan, Somalia, Djibouti, Saudi Arabia, Yemen, Mauritania etc.

FGM is carried out with knives, scissors, scalpels, pieces of glass or razor blades. Anaesthetics and antiseptics are not generally used.

The FGM instruments



Types of FGM :

Type 1: Sunna circumcision in which the prepuce (the clitoral covering) is removed, along with part or all of the clitoris. This is called Clitoridectomy, Sunna, meaning removal of the clitoris in the tradition of the Prophet Mohammed. It is called "Sunna Kashfa" (Open Sunna) in Sudan. This is found most commonly in West African countries like Burkina Faso, Mali, Nigeria, and Senegal.


Type 2: Excision: The entire clitoris and prepuce are removed, along with all or part of the labia minora. This is called "Sunna Magatia" (Closed Sunna) in Sudan. It is most commonly found in Burkina Faso and Sudan


Type 3: Infibulation (a.k.a. Pharaonic circumcision. This involves removal of the clitoris and prepuce, followed by sewing up of the vulva. A small opening is left to allow urine and menstrual blood to pass.






Why? to prevent women's promiscuity by reducing sex urge -.-'



A report from an eyewitness in Somalia:

"The child, completely naked, is made to sit on a low stool. Several women take hold of her and open her legs wide. After separating her outer and inner lips, the operator, usually a woman experienced in this procedure, sits down facing the child. With her kitchen knife the operator first pierces and slices open the hood of the clitoris. Then she begins to cut it out. While another woman wipes off the blood with a rag, the operator digs with her sharp fingernail a hole the length of the clitoris to detach and pull out the organ. The little girl, held down by the women helpers, screams in extreme pain; but no one pays the slightest attention.The operator finishes this job by entirely pulling out the clitoris, cutting it to the bone with her knife. Her helpers again wipe off the spurting blood with a rag. The operator then removes the remaining flesh, digging with her finger to remove any remnant of the clitoris among the flowing blood. The neighbor women are then invited to plunge their fingers into the bloody hole to verify that every piece of the clitoris is removed."

Afterwards the girl's leg will be tied together until the wound healed, which can take months.



As we can see from the photo here, the infibulation (FGM type 3) leaves an opening big enough only for urine and menstruation flow. The woman will be cut open by the husband on the wedding night using his fingernails or a dagger. She may be sewn up again, if the husband leaves on a long trip.


Warning! video with graphic content.
http://www.respect-ev.org/mambots/content/mgmediabot2/players.php?mode=popup&params=type,flv|path,images/stories/videos/Watch_this_EN.flv|popup,true|popupcaption,Video%20Excision|popuppreview,images/stories/play_btn1.gif|width,320|height,205

Petition against FGM:
http://www.respect-ev.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=37&Itemid=73

January 18, 2009

My birthday wish list

Burberry's belt for man. There's the woman version too, but can't find any pics.. Anyway, both look similar..

AND

AND


AND

Thanx, friends! hihihihi

*ehm ehm Dessy dear, are you there?* :D
Note the 'AND' not 'OR' !!

Why should I bother to ask?

Yesterday I met with a few friends and we were talking about the Pater Noster prayer.

Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name.
Thy Kingdom come,
thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory. for ever and ever. Amen


One friend said this prayer is not enough, because it's so not personal, and we should ask Him to grant us our wishes or solve our problems.

She quoted from Mathew 7:7.

"Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find; knock, and it shall be opened to you."

In my opinion, these two highlighted phrases contradict each other. Why? It was said, if we ask, then we will receive. But on the other side, God's will be done.

A shallow example, I asked my dad for a BMW convertible. My dad gave me a Suzuki instead. My dad's will be done, it's his money, his authority. I shouldn't complain, you may say, at least I got the car. Yes, I did, but that wasn't the one I asked for. So if in the end I don't have any say, why should I ask?


You may say, but if you didn't speak up that I wanted a car, I wouldn't even get the Suzuki. Really? If he's really a good dad, he should know that I need a car, without me even asking. I believe God will give us what we need, but not necessarily what we want.

Let me tell you my story. I was born with impairments. And I had to go through lots of surgeries in my childhood. As a child, I was afraid of surgeries, and I prayed to God every night, "God, please send me your miracle, heal me so that I don't have to go through this surgery." But I still had to go through those surgeries, God didn't work his miracles on me.

Ok, I don't hate God or anything. In fact, I am very grateful because he gives me nice parents who can afford those expensive surgeries and who never think twice about giving me the best health care. I learned that God provides me with what I need. But is it what I asked for? I don't think so.


We, human beings, are selfish. We're always asking for things, complaining about our problems.But we forget to be grateful for what we have. It would be nice if we start appreciating what we have, instead of whining and complaining about things that we don't have. It helps, you know, to see things from a positive point of view.

Anyway, my point here is, why should I even bother to ask, if in the end He already knows what's best for me, and that His will be done? In this case, it would be better if this phrase 'ask and you will receive' didn't exist. If He didn't promise me anything in the first place, then I too would have nothing against His authority.


January 17, 2009

It's time for another revolution



I think this is a very nice commercial. It grabs people's attention, provokes thoughts, sparks discussion. Many people here in Germany describe it as tasteless, as Fidel Castro, Lenin, Mao, etc are shown here.

Revolutionary: constituting or bringing about a major or fundamental change

It's quite contradictory, as you see how they bring the protagonists and the antagonists together. Well, be it Gandhi or Lenin, they're indeed striving for a change. So, I think we can call them revolutionists, no matter how the revolution turned out in the end.

Though what Marx said ''Che, it's about what people need.'' is a bit inappropriate, judging on the history of most of these so-called 'revolutionists', the adv. company still did a great job.

Anyway, the cast in order of appearance:

Fidel Castro
Mao Zedong (Tse-tung)
Wladimir Iljitsch Lenin
Mahatma Gandhi
Ho Chi Minh
Rosa Luxemburg (a notorious german democratic socialist) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosa_Luxemburg
Martin Luther King
Che Guevara
Karl Marx

just to make things clear, I am NOT a fan of marxism, socialism, nor communism.

(eh, susah loh nemu iklan model gini di Indonesia >.<' )

January 15, 2009

Ncik? ato mbak?

Asli deh.. Saya ngga suka dipanggil ncik.

Kenapa saya tiba2 bilang gini?
Ceritanya kemaren saya ngobrol sama orang ga dikenal di chatroom. Saya panggil dia 'mas'. Si 'mas' disana ga terima dipanggil begitu, karena ceritanya dia cina (ups, tionghoa). Terus dia minta dipanggil 'engko'.

Halah, saya jadi mikir, kenapa sih buat nama panggilan aja perlu ada dikotomi rasial ya di Indonesia? Orang jawa minta dipanggil mas, orang tionghoa minta dipanggil ngko, dll.
Berhubung sekarang domisili saya sekarang lagi di Jerman, saya jadi bayangin, lucu juga kali ya kalo bayangin orang Jerman manggil orang Asia, Afrika dengan panggilan yg beda2. Untungnya disini cuma ada 'Herr' sama 'Frau'. Mau warna kulitnya apa juga panggilannya ya tetep itu. Sama spt bahasa inggris, semua orang cuma dipanggil mister, ma'am, atau miss, mau warna kulitnya putih, item, kuning, ungu.

Yah untungnya saya juga jarang2 sih dipanggil ncik, apalagi amoy (hih merinding) di Jakarta. Banyakan mbak2 di mall manggil saya 'mbak' juga :D Jujur, kuping saya juga lebih seneng kalo denger papa mama saya dipanggil 'bapak' dan 'ibu'.

Sekarang pertanyaannya, apakah panggilan yg beda2 ngikutin suku dan ras ini disebabkan oleh bahasa Indonesia yang terlalu kompleks dan kaya, atau karena pikiran kita orang Indonesia yang masih terkotak-kotak? Atau malah saya aja yg ngeyel?

January 14, 2009

ok, this is really long..

Rules:

1. tag 5 friends (not the one who sent it to you!) -- I don't know how to tag people.... :(
2. answer all truthfully
3. take it in public!
4. tell all tags on their profile that they have been tagged

Info

[x] I am shorter than 5'4.
[x] I think I'm ugly sometimes.
[ ] I tan easily.
[ ] I wish my hair was a different color.
[ ] I have friends who have never seen my natural hair color.
[ ] I have a tattoo.
[x] I am self-conscious about my appearance.
[ ] I have/I've had braces.
[x] I wear glasses/contacts.
[x] I would get plastic surgery if it were 100% safe, free of cost, and scar-free.
[x] I've been told I'm attractive by a complete stranger.
[x] I have more than 2 piercing. -- used to have
[x] I have piercing in places besides my ears. -- again, used to
[x] I have freckles. -- do sunspots count?

Family/Home Life
[ ] I've sworn at my parents.
[ ] I've run away from home.
[ ] I've been kicked out of the house.
[x] My biological parents are together.
[ ] I have a sibling less than one year old.
[ ] I want to have kids someday.
[ ] I've lost a child.

School/Work
[x] I'm in school
[x] I have a job
[ ] I've fallen asleep at work/school.
[] I almost always do/did my homework.
[x] I've missed a week or more of school.
[ ] I failed more than 1 class last year.
[x] I've stolen something from my job. -- toilet paper!
[ ] I've been fired.

Embarrassment
[ ] I've slipped out a "lol" in a spoken conversation.
[x] Disney movies still make me cry.
[ ] I've peed from laughing.
[x] I've snorted while laughing.
[x] I've laughed so hard I've cried.
[ ] I've glued my hand to something.
[ ] I've had my pants rip in public.

Health
[x] I was born with a disease/impairment
[x] I've gotten stitches/staples.
[x] I've broken a bone.
[ ] I've had my tonsils removed.
[ ] I've sat in a doctor’s office/emergency room with a friend.
[ ] I've had my wisdom teeth removed.
[x] I had a serious surgery.
[ ] I've had chicken pox.
[ ] I've had measles

Traveling
[ ] I've driven over 200 miles in one day
[x] I've been on a plane.
[x] I've been to Canada.
[ ] I've been to Mexico.
[x] I've been to Niagara Falls.
[x] I've been to Japan.
[ ] I've celebrated Mardi Gras in New Orleans.
[x] I've been to Europe.
[x] I've been to Africa -- Tunisia :D

Experiences
[x] I've gotten lost in my city.
[x] I've seen a shooting star.
[ ] I've wished on a shooting star
[ ] I've seen a meteor shower.
[x] I've gone out in public in my pajamas.
[x] I've pushed all the buttons on an elevator.
[ ] I've kicked a guy where it hurts.
[x] I've been to a casino.
[ ] I've been skydiving. -- how I wish I had.....
[ ] I've gone skinny dipping
[x] I've played spin the bottle.
[ ] I've drank a whole gallon of milk in one hour.
[ ] I've crashed a car.
[x] I've been skiing.
[x] I've been in a play.
[ ] I've met someone in person from myspace.
[ ] I've caught a snowflake on my tongue.
[ ] I've seen the Northern lights. -- argh !! don't remind me..we were in the ideal location and time to see the aurora in Norway, but it was raining...................
[ ] I've sat on a roof top at night.
[ ] I've played chicken.
[x] I've played a prank on someone
[x] I've ridden in a taxi.
[ ] I've seen the Rocky Horror Picture Show.
[x] I've eaten sushi.
[ ] I've been snowboarding.

Relationships
[ ] I'm single
[ ] I'm in a relationship
[ ] I'm engaged.
[ ] I'm married.
[ ] I've gone on a blind date.
[ ] I've been the dumped more than the dumper.
[x] I miss someone right now.
[x] I have a fear of abandonment.
[ ] I've gotten divorced.
[x] I've had feelings for someone who didn't have them back.
[ ] I've told someone I loved them when I didn't.
[x] I've kept something from a past relationship.
[ ] I've had a crush on someone of the same sex.
[ ] I've had a crush on a teacher
[ ] I've been kissed in the rain.
[x] I've hugged a stranger.
[ ] I have kissed a stranger.

Honesty/Crime
[x] I've done something I promised someone else I wouldn't.
[x] I've done something I promised myself I wouldn't.
[x] I've snuck out of my house.
[x] I have lied to my parents about where I am.
[x] I am keeping a secret from the world.
[x] I've cheated while playing a game.
[x] I've cheated on a test.
[ ] I've run a red light.
[ ] I've been suspended from school.
[x] I've witnessed a crime. -- yaaay, I was even the victim..
[x] I've been in a fist fight
[ ] I've been arrested.

Drugs/Alcohol
[x] I've consumed alcohol
[ ] I regularly drink.
[ ] I've passed out from drinking.
[ ] I have passed out drunk at least once in the past 6 months.
[x] I've smoked weed
[ ] I've taken painkillers when I didn't need them.
[ ] I've eaten shrooms.
[ ] I've popped E.
[ ] I've inhaled Nitrous.
[ ] I've done hard drugs.
[x] I have cough drops when I'm not sick.
[ ] I can swallow about 5 pills at a time no problem.
[ ] I have been diagnosed with clinical depression.
[ ] I have been diagnosed with one or more anxiety disorder.
[x] I shut others out when I'm depressed.
[ ] I take anti-depressants.
[ ] I'm anorexic or bulimic.
[x] I've slept an entire day when I didn't need it.
[x] I've hurt myself on purpose.
[x] I've woken up crying.

Death and Suicide
[x] I'm afraid of dying.
[x] I hate funerals.
[ ] I've seen someone dying.
[ ] Someone close to me has attempted suicide.
[ ] Someone close to me has committed suicide.
[ ] I've planned my own suicide.
[ ] I've attempted suicide.
[ ] I've written a eulogy for myself.

Materialism
[ ] I own over 5 rap CDs.
[ ] I own an iPod or MP3 player.
[ ] I have an unhealthy obsession with anime/manga.
[x] I own multiple designer purses, costing over $100 a piece.
[ ] I own something from Hot Topic.
[ ] I own something from Pac Sun.
[ ] I collect comic books
[x] I own something from The Gap.
[x] I own something I got on e-bay.
[ ] I own something from Abercrombie.

Random
[x] I can sing well.
[ ] I've stolen a tray from a fast food restaurant.
[x] I open up to others easily.
[x] I watch the news.
[ ] I don't kill bugs.
[x] I hate hearing songs that sacrifice meaning for the sake of being able to rhyme.
[x] I curse regularly.
[x] I sing in the shower.
[ ] I am a morning person.
[ ] I paid for my cell phone ring tone.
[x] I'm a snob about grammar. -- am trying to change
[ ] I am a sports fanatic.
[ ] I twirl my hair.
[ ] I have "x"s in my screen name.
[ ] I love being neat.
[ ] I love Spam
[ ] I've copied more than 30 CD's in a day
[ ] I bake well.
[x] My favorite color is either white, yellow, pink, red or blue
[ ] I've worn pajamas to school.
[ ] I like Martha Stewart.
[ ] I know how to shoot a gun
[ ] I am in love with love
[ ] I am guilty of tYpInG lIkE tHiS. -- WHY would anyone type like that?
[ ] I laugh at my own jokes.
[ ] I eat fast food weekly.
[ ] I believe in ghosts.
[ ] I am online 24/7, even as an away message.
[x] I've not turned anything in and still got an A in a certain class.
[ ] I can't sleep if there is a spider in the room.
[ ] I am really ticklish.
[ ] I love white chocolate.
[x] I bite my nails. -- my worst habit :)
[ ] I play video games.
[x] I'm good at remembering names.
[ ] I'm good at remembering dates.
[x] I have no idea what I want to do for the rest of my life.

January 12, 2009


While I was looking for poster of the 'footprints' poem, I stumbled across a very nice video from Leona Lewis. Enjoy..

Leona Lewis - Footprints In The Sand
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Footprints in the sand

Today I was looking for a birthday present for a friend, who's currently facing some problems in her life and study. Then I remembered I used to have a nice framed poem hanged on my bedroom's wall back home in Jakarta. This poem never fails to touch me, so I ordered this poster for her on some online store, since it's quite difficult to find english poems here in Germany and I don't like the german version :( Anyway, thought I'll share..


One night a man had a dream.

He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand; one belonged to him, and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. he noticed that many times along the path of his life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it. "Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that at the worst times in my life, there is only one set of footprints. How could you leave me when I needed you the most?"

The Lord replied " My precious, precious child, I love you and would never leave you. During your times of suffering and when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

** Dita, if you happen to read this, could you please forward this poem to Nico? I hope it can comfort him a bit..

January 11, 2009

Why do girls like flowers?


I got this flower from a friend yesterday, and I think that it's very sweet of him because I actually just met him twice before and still don't really know him.

Honestly, I think we girls don't really like the flower itself, since it can't be eaten nor worn and it withers easily. But it just makes us feel kinda special that someone took the time and effort to buy the flower for us :)

January 9, 2009

Paris Danse Danse!!

My 4th time in Paris, and still falling in love.. Simply charming.

View of the Eiffel tower from Trocadero




Inside the Paris Opera House (the inspiration of Gaston Leroux's the Phantom of the Opera)



Moulin Rouge, we drank come champagne while watching cabaret and the can can dance show ;)


Avenue des Champs-Elysees and the Arc de Triomphe

Seine River, New year's eve





The famous Foie Gras on our 3-course-french-dinner (I'm so broke!)


Dessert.......... (and please please, it's de-ser, not d-zurt) :D



Why do all good things come to an end?

Holiday is over, back to the daily routines, college, presentations, exams are coming... *sigh*
We went on a 10-day-trip to the Switzerland (Zürich, Lucerne, Interlaken, Jungfraujoch the top of Europe at 3454 metres asl) and Paris.

Lucerne




Lucerne at night















View from the Jungfraujoch






It was so cold, my ears, nose and toes were freezing and I've worn 3 pairs of socks!